8/15/2012 5:08 PM
Andy:
By no means am I the leading authority on the advise that I shall render but here goes;
as old Deputy Barn would say; "nip it, nip it, nip it in the bud."
The truth comes out when your face to face w/the issue(s). There's a respect factor involved here where you've earned your stripes and maybe he or she as well BUT anything detrimental to the course lands in your lap and not in his or hers as direct reports. So here's what I suggest;
Together you get in the truck, head down the highway to a nice secluded place, turn the damn phone off-leaving the premises w/the intent of not being bothered. Then in a calm direct manner you ask pointed questions-the questions that have been on your chest that you need answers to resolve your issues as his or her boss. A gulp in the throat, an eye off to the left, etc will indicate if the truth is or will ever emerge from his or her replies. You can decide or prepare what you are going to say and what lines you plan to cross or what lines you will draw in the sand. Whatever the issues, responses, you don't return until you are confident that you have resolved the issue-for good and for the good of the club.
Good luck Andy