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1. Fleegel Timothy

   
   11/26/2011 11:11 PM

   After being 1500 miles away from family and having 2 little girls, my wife and I are considering moving back to our families. I love what I do but understand that this job market is very competitive right now. Just having a hard time making this decision. Anybody have similar stories and would be willing to share advice?

   
   
   
   
2. McCallum David K

   
   11/27/2011 6:11 AM

   Sorry Tim I have never been faced with such a choice. I can only imagine how tough making this choice is on you and your family. In today's economic climate it is truly a hard choice to make. I wish you well in whatever decision you make.

   
   
   
   
3. Wahlin Scott B

   
   11/27/2011 11:11 AM

   Right now I would send your wife and kids to visit whenever you can. Making money is really important for a young man, I think. If your parents are independent I would put off making a move. You might HAVE to make the move someday.

   
   
   
   
4. Keith Pegg

   

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   11/27/2011 2:11 PM

   timfleegel said: After being 1500 miles away from family and having 2 little girls, my wife and I are considering moving back to our families. I love what I do but understand that this job market is very competitive right now. Just having a hard time making this decision. Anybody have similar stories and would be willing to share advice?

   
   Been there am there and will be for some time to come, My wife traveled with me until 7 years ago and the kids I was luck were almost grown. Be 19 years this year. Was it the right decision? For me yes. I feel your pain.
   Keith
   Zama Japan

   
   
   
   
5. Clay Putnam

   

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   11/27/2011 8:11 PM

   Moving closer to family is always a plus. However, you may have to decide between a job within your profession or your family. You may get lucky and find a superintendent job close to your family. Chances are that you will not, at least in the short term. As Scott said, you can send your wife and kids back while you continue with your current job until something comes available closer to home. On the other side, quit your job, move the family, and get a job at the local 7-11 until a golf course job comes available. In the end, make the decision based on your circumstances, your wants, and your needs.

   
   
   
   
6. Joe Wachter

   

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   11/28/2011 8:11 AM

   Tim,
   
   Difficult living away from family. I've been lucky and have always lived within an hour. I would think that these times with millions of people currently out of work from the crash in 2008, I would be very careful about changing ones life situation drastically without having something on the other side. Having a job that you enjoy that pays you every week is very important. Not having a job creates many other stresses that a family can sometimes not withstand.
   
   I would be slow and deliberate in your decision making. I would begin the research and start looking at jobs closer to where you want to be in your career and living situation. Take your time. Communicate clearly with your spouse of your same desire but that it will take time. Sometimes starting over is the only choice if you feel like you have to make the move. Parks and recreation, field management, lawn care, commercial properties are just some of the areas to check into.
   
   Goodluck. I'm sure during the holidays the pull to be home can be even stronger.

   
   
   
   
7. Fleegel Timothy

   
   11/29/2011 12:11 PM

   Thanks for the insight. We've been talking about it for a little while now but it was really brought to the front because one of my wife's aunts passed away a couple weeks ago and she wasn't able to make it to the wake or funeral.
   
   I appreciate the responses.